Principle — You’re in control
Control – to have power over.
One of the most important things in life to realize is that while it may not always feel that way, you are in control of yourself. You may not decide what happens to you or others in the world, but you do get to decide how you react to it!
A challange taken from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. It is something very simple, which you can do at anytime.
For a full day, listen to your language and to the language of the people around you. How often do you use and hear reactive phrases such as “If only”, “I can’t”, or “I have to”?
Now, go try it! Then think about what you could say instead.
June 23, 2011 Comments Off
Irish playwrite George Bernard Shaw, said:
Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
No-one determines who you will be, but you. Go create!
June 1, 2011 Comments Off
Again, from the great book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey.
People who exercise their embryonic freedom day after day will, little by little, expand that freedom. People who do not will find that it withers until they are literally “being lived”. They are acting out the scripts written by parents, associates, and society.
Are you living your life, or are you being lived?
May 24, 2011 Comments Off
From a seminar with the often thought-provoking economist Charlie Söderberg. (FTBM)
There is no such thing as a “bad day”. Why not have just a “bad minute” or even a “bad breath”, and be done with it?
May 17, 2011 Comments Off
Some ideas about how weather affects different people, from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey.
Reactive people are often affected by their physical environment. If the weather is good, they feel good. If it isn’t, it affects their attitude and their performance. Proactive people can carry their own weather with them. Whether it rains or shines makes no difference to them.
Reactive people are also affected by their social environment, by the “social weather”. When people treat them well, they feel well; when people don’t, they become defensive or protective. Reactive people build their emotional lives around the behavior of others, empowering the weaknesses of other people to control them.
Does your mood depend on the weather?
February 18, 2011 3 Comments
Stephen Covey defines proactivity in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person. Reactive people are driven by feelings, by circumstances, by conditions, by their environment. Proactive people are driven by values – carefully thought about, selected and internalized values.
Can you control your impulses?
February 12, 2011 Comments Off
Speaker and coach Birgitta Granström provides some tips for how to get through darker times. (FTBM)
Discover that the ball always is yours. “You have sole responsibility for being your best you, that you feel good and that you give positive energy to your surroundings.”
January 24, 2011 Comments Off
Seth Godin talks about the fact that you are responsible for your own development, in rather harsh words.
Even if you’re not self-employed, your boss is you. You manage your career, your day, your responses. You manage how you sell your services and your education and the way you talk to yourself.
Odds are, you’re doing it poorly.
If you had a manager that talked to you the way you talked to you, you’d quit. If you had a boss that wasted as much as your time as you do, they’d fire her. If an organization developed its employees as poorly as you are developing yourself, it would soon go under.
Are you a good boss?
December 4, 2010 Comments Off
Seth Godin provides some provocative words.
Take a look at the language you use to describe what happened at work yesterday, that’s your first clue. If you’re not the one creating the change, perhaps it’s time to start.
What happened at work yesterday?
March 8, 2010 Comments Off
Birgitta Granström, speaker and coach on personal development, provides some tips for how to get through darker times. (FTBM)
Find your identity: The more you let your life depend on external elements, the more vulnerable you become. Become a master of living in happiness by accepting reality.
March 2, 2010 Comments Off