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Focus on what you can change — Universal Principles

Principle — Focus on what you can change

Change – to make different in some particular.

You have limited energy. Make good use of it and don’t waste it on things over which you have no power. Focus on what you can change!

Don’t make a second mistake

From The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey.

For those filled with regret, perhaps the most needful exercise of proactivity is that past mistakes are also out there in the Circle of Concern. We can’t recall them, we can’t undo them, we can’t control the consequences that came as a result.

Don’t make a second (bigger) mistake by not accepting that you made a mistake, or by constantly reiterating the mistake in your mind.

2nd Class Citizen, by JenWaller

May 9, 2011   Comments Off

Happiness by changing others

Out Of The Shadows, by ashley.adcox

Samuel Johnson, famous English 18th century author, wrote:

He who hath so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition, will waste his life in fruitless efforts and multiply the grief he proposes to remove.

How many will you have to change before you are finally happy?

May 5, 2011   Comments Off

Happiness is a choice

From The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey.

Happiness, like unhappiness, is a proactive choice. There are things, like the weather, that our Circle of Influence will never include. But as proactive people, we can carry our own physical or social weather with us. We can be happy and accept those things that at present we can’t control, while we focus our efforts on the things that we can.

We Are Climbing..., by drp

Do you carry your own weather inside  you?

February 22, 2011   Comments Off

That thought is the problem

it's that time again..., by Luke Montague

If you want to change your life, start with yourself. Or, as expressed by Stephen Covey’s in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Anytime we think the problem is “out there”, that thought is the problem.

Now, where was that problem, again?

February 9, 2011   Comments Off

Within your control

Tim Sanders in an interview with US speed skater Apolo Anton Ohno.

His message, based on his new book was simple:  Create goals you have the total power to achieve. For those accomplishments beyond your control, consider them dreams that are more likely to come true if you meet your goals.

HH Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche, by WonderlaneHe pointed out that prior to the Vancouver Olympics, he errantly had a goal to become the most decorated US Winter Olympian, which would require winning six medals. He realized, in an aha moment, that anything could happen no matter how hard he trained: Another skater could sacrificially bump him out of races, new super-competitors could show up, he could get suddenly ill, on and so on.

He knew that he needed to watch his weight (he’s old for a competitive speed skater) and that he needed more core strength. So, he made his goals around weight/strength. Before the Olympics, he lost 17 pounds, getting down to 141. That required intense dieting with no cheating and a lot of hungry nights. He went from leg pressing around 1500 pounds to a stunning 1980 pounds. Again, this required hours of highly strenuous training, with pain becoming his best friend.

On the first day he was on the ice in Vancouver, his key competitors, the Koreans and Chinese looked at him and said, “Something has happened to that guy!”. In the end, Apolo did achieve his dreams, winning enough medals to become the most decorated US winter competitor in Olympic history. In his view, reaching those goals was the equivalent to “loading the funnel” in sales speak.

Do other people control whether you will achieve your goals? If so, you might want to change them.

January 21, 2011   Comments Off

Circle of concern

Stephen R. Covey , in his great book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People introduces a very good metaphor, using the concepts of “Circle of Concern” vs “Circle of Influence”.

Castlerigg Stone Circle S05123Another excellent way to become more self-aware regarding our own degree of proactivity is to look at where we focus our time and energy. We each have a wide range of concerns–our health, our children, problems at work, the national debt, nuclear war. We could separate those from things in which we have no particular mental or emotional involvement by creating a “Circle of Concern”.

As we look at those things within our Circle of Concern, it becomes apparent that there are some things over which we have no real control and others that we can do something about. We could identify those concerns in the latter group by circumscribing them within a smaller “Circle of Influence”.

By determining which of these two circles is the focus of most of our time and energy, we can discover much about the degree of our proactivity.

December 21, 2009   Comments Off

You don’t have the power

Seth Godin advices the publishing industry not to fight the internet and the changing market.

Smart businesspeople focus on the things they have the power to change, not whining about the things they don’t.

Existing publishers have the power to change the form of what they do, increase the value, increase the speed, segment the audience, create communities, lead tribes, generate breakthroughs that make us gasp. They don’t have the power to demand that we pay more for the same stuff that others will sell for much less.

Keep on with the force, don't stop..., by Abe and Liina Novy

December 20, 2009   Comments Off