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“I choose to” — Universal Principles

“I choose to”

In 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey suggests that our language and choice of words are important for our level of proactivity, or consciousness.

El Capitan, by Wes Browning

Here follows a couple of examples of reactive language, followed by a more appropriate proactive way to say the same thing.

  • There’s nothing I can do. – Let’s look at our alternatives.
  • That’s just the way I am. – I can choose a different approach.
  • He makes me so mad. – I control my own feelings.
  • They won’t allow that. – I can create an effective presentation.
  • I have to do that. – I will choose an appropriate response.
  • I can’t. – I choose.
  • I must. – I prefer.
  • If only. – I will.

So, next time you find yourself saying “I have to clean my apartment,” stop behaving like a victim and say “I choose to clean my apartment (because while I may not enjoy cleaning, I prefer it to having a messy apartment).”